By Delilah Rodrigues
Almost a year and a few months ago, my then-boyfriend, now-husband and I decided to get hitched — and the marriage bug bit us really hard. Our parents, friends and probably even our nemeses (you will know why) were elated to hear about our decision. We had a no-frills civil marriage and an elaborate (traditional) wedding is still in the works. After the ceremony, I decided to move to Dubai. While I was preparing to relocate to the emirate, I was advised on the dos and don’ts of migrating to this new country. But no one told me anything about what I should expect or will encounter after marriage — that too in a new country. Read: Endless bills to look into, exhaustive grocery runs, overflowing laundry baskets and constant bickering (most married people should know with whom).
Little did I know that the fun weekends that I would spend leisurely with friends earlier would turn into ‘nightmarish’ days — spending Fridays and Saturdays doing domestic chores, spending time getting acquainted with new faces and basically trying to set up a home away from home.
I was upset that nobody — not even my mum who always advises me on everything I need to know about life — told me about how my merry weekends would turn miserable. How I wish I had been more attentive in maths class during my younger days — at least my household finances wouldn’t be a mess.
No one had warned me that instead of hanging out with friends, I would be spending my weekend evening stocking up on groceries for the week. That said, I cannot even tell you what satisfaction an overflowing cart (and an empty wallet) brings to me.
There are days when I enter a supermarket in broad daylight and walkout only after sunset — what an exciting way to spend time. These trips have now turned me into a supermarket addict, much to the displeasure of my husband.
Oh, and that’s not the end of my marital woes. No one ever warned me that my laundry basket would transform into a bottomless pit. Clothes of all sizes and colours have to be religiously put into the washing machine on a daily basis. And wait, I was not aware that we had to segregate coloured ones from whites. I, of course, learnt it the hard way when my whites turned pink last week.
Household chores aside, there’s also a good side to a marriage — that’s if you have a hubby who understands your pain. A hubby who will whip up a delicious cup of coffee when you get home from a busy and exhausting day at work, a hubby who I would have as my very own punching bag for life (not literally). Yes, there are countless nice things like this that come as a package when you tie the ‘right’ knot.
But this is just scratching the surface of a long partnership. Marriage also teaches you more meaningful things, things people don’t tell you about — like teamwork, patience, acceptance, trust, sharing (yes, that includes your food, wardrobe and blanket) and several other virtues.
My rollercoaster journey has just begun and I cannot agree more that even with all the ups and downs, it’s a wonderful journey of discovering the many facets of human nature.
Delilah loves her food, finds solace in grocery aisles and books, and is addicted to ASMR (autonomous sensory meridian response)