By Purva Grover
“So, what’s your New Year’s resolution?” is a question, which is as rude, if not more than, “So, what did you do on New Year’s Eve?” Just when the pressure to party leaves us alone, the pestering to be perfect and bring about a 360-degree turn to our lives takes over. This is the first weekend of 2020 and we’re expected to be seen nowhere else except on a running track or inside of a gym. There is also the compulsion to drink celery, green apple and kale juice each morning; to detox after all the festive food. By next week, of course, the expectations will wear [us] down and we’ll be back to using the elevator. So far, so good. Hashtags like #healthylifetstyle and #newyearnewme are trending, and will soon enough give way to memes on breaking the resolutions. According to the US News & World Report (January 2019), the failure rate for New Year’s resolutions is said to be about 80 per cent, and most lose their resolve by mid-February.
Everyone is resolving to get fitter, run on treadmills, eat healthier, and lose weight. To climb career ladders, travel to places far and wide. To sleep earlier or wake up earlier. To read more. To spend less time on phones. To network better. Sounds productive, right? But what if we were to resolve to not make 2020 a perfect year, instead just live each moment with passion. We’re human and we’ll err, right? So, let’s be open to making many mistakes and suffer downfalls as well. Let’s aspire to run after butterflies, climb trees. To have a small picnic in the neighbourhood garden. To lose negativity. To stay up if the sunset is too pretty or wake up to watch the sunrise. To spend me-time. To listen to stories. To use the phones to tell loved ones how much they matter. Let’s work hard, but not punish ourselves if we fail to.
I’m not planning to give up anything, be it doughnuts or Netflix. I don’t aspire to live 2020 under pressure. Maybe nothing will change for me in 2020 and that’s okay. I may not have medals and promotions to flaunt, or inches lost and flying mileage points gained. And that’s okay.
Choose to grow at your pace, slow or extremely slow. Don’t succumb to perfection, and see how you fare or don’t. However, if you’re still keen to resolve, then here’s some information — January 25 is the Chinese New Year. So, you can have one more go at the goals. Or bite into dim sums and glass noodles as I will.
Purva spent her New Year’s Eve at home and didn’t write down any resolutions