Category Archives: Opinion

Hunting for someone to marry just doesn’t ‘ad’ up

By Sushmita Bose

As an Indian, I cringe a little when the subject of “arranged marriages” crop up among my non-desi friends. “So the man and woman are not allowed to choose their life partners? A life partner needs to be deemed “suitable” by others first?” is one question posed, even as I desperately (and not very successfully) try to reinforce the notion that a lot of Indians actually don’t have to stomp down the arranged marriage route, and are free to make their own life choices.

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Ask women about work, not when they’re getting married

By Sherouk Zakaria

On New Year’s Day, my grandmother, who flew in to spend the holidays with us, gave me a warm hug and said, “Happy New Year, darling. I hope to see you in your own house next year.” She didn’t mean getting my own place when I fly abroad to get my master’s degree or when I get a job with a pay decent enough to allow me to buy a house. She was referring to the house I would move into as a result of marriage.

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Share your loot with the poor, will you? No? How predictable

By Sushmita Bose

I was watching Season 10 of Friends, where there’s one episode when Phoebe (the crazy one — or the ‘wonderfully weird’ one, take your pick) and her boyfriend Mike Hannigan decide to not splurge on an expensive wedding. They visit a charity that caters to educational needs of poor children in New York City, and hand over a generous cheque — their entire wedding fund. And (rightfully) feel virtuous about themselves.

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For me, clutter sparks joy. Take that, Marie Kondo

By Sushmita Bose

like clutter. I am intimidated by super-neat, less-is-more spaces and clean lines: they seem impersonal, frosty, unwelcoming. Everything in place. I feel I’m walking on eggshells, scared I may mess up something. God help me if I do; keep imagining an OCD wave of a real-life version of Monica Geller (from Friends, remember?) being unleashed. So maybe the real-life Monica may turn out to be a sport after all — but, too late, I’m already on the backfoot.

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Everywhere I go, Bollywood chat becomes the icebreaker

By Anita Iyer

I rang in the New Year with thousands of revellers who had gathered in Ras Al Khaimah for a 13-minute long fireworks display that would earn the emirate a couple of Guinness World Records ( the ‘longest chain of fireworks’ exceeded 4.6km and ‘longest straight line of fireworks’ was 13 km).

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